Have you ever paid attention to these?
We all have programmed thoughts that come into our minds when certain things trigger them: ‘I am not smart enough’, ‘I am too fat’, ‘I don’t have enough money’, ‘I am not good enough.’
They can also be related to health: ‘I have fat genes’, ‘Diabetes runs in the family’, ‘I always get sick this time of year.’ They are deep, and they pop up all the time. You may not even notice them.
These beliefs can be with us our whole lives and we may never notice. When we keep telling ourselves these words, what we say becomes our reality, and the evidence starts to pile up, and we start to believe them deeper – and then even more of what we believe happens to us. It is a never ending cycle, and it can be positive or negative.
What I love about this is that we are in total control of our lives – what we become, where we go, how it all turns out.
Maybe you have noticed that no matter what you try, you cannot get healthier. It may feel like you are self-sabotaging yourself. If you are in this position, this post is for you!
Where Do They Come From?
Have you ever noticed how certain traits run in families? Maybe everyone in a family you know is super cheap, really smart, or always sick with something. Is this genetics or is it the environment we are raised in?
When we are babies, we have not developed the filter that allows us to question the words and actions that are going on around us. We are like little sponges soaking in all that we can with nothing to stop the negative. We do not develop the filter until we are a little older.
This can result in the thought that we need to be sick to be loved, as an example. Say your parents are really busy when you are little and you do not get much attention. Slowly you start to notice that you get so much love and attention when you are ill. The belief that being sick gets you love is programmed into your thoughts, and each time you get evidence of this, the deeper the belief gets. The illness sticks around longer, and may eventually stay.
As we get older, we need evidence to start believing something bad about ourselves, so when we make a mistake (and of course we do), the negative thought is pushed deeper into our beliefs. By the time we are adults, we have quite the personal belief system.
Questioning & Examining
What is great though, is that we can change the beliefs we hold. We can actively change things in our lives by believing that ‘I am worthy’, ‘I am smart’, ‘I am successful’, ‘I am healthy.’
Where To Start
This exercise will help you identify what thoughts are holding you back from living the life you want. Identifying these messages is the first step to lasting change.
Through this I learned that I have/had perfectionist tendencies. Perfectionism used to be at the heart of all my procrastination.
Now that I am aware of this, I can look at my work from a different angle – the idea that putting something out there that isn’t ‘perfect’ is better than nothing.
There are many other beliefs that I am working with right now, and more that will pop up throughout my life. I just wanted to give a small example.
Some things we cannot remove from our lives, and that is okay. Work on the things you can change at this point. If it is a person in your life or situation at work, maybe all it will take is an honest conversation with someone. Let them know what is going on and how they can help.
If there is something huge deep down inside you, you may want to seek help with someone you trust. There are many professionals out there that will be happy to work with you.
Put these up all over your house in the places you look most often, and repeat these as often as you can throughout your day. Work on really feeling these words.
Our thoughts and beliefs dictate what our lives look like, so they are a great area to begin work on when you desire change.
- Louise Hay – everything she does is gold, so you will not be steered in the wrong direction. She is so full of love. Any book by her is worth it! You Can Heal Your Body & You Can Heal Your Life are my top 2.
- Creative Visualization – Shakti Gawain
- Wayne Dyer
- Jeff Brown
- The Power Of I Am – Joel Osteen (for people of the Christian persuasion. It is a great book, with great tips. It is a pretty simple read though, so getting it from the library is a good idea.)
When you feel like sharing your journey with women on the same path, come on over to the Facebook group – Vivacious Vegan Women – and get connected!
Yours in plant love,